I can see a field of flowers in my mind. Strung across a vast expanse, blooming fields flowers lead the way on an accompanying path that only speaks of life. The path extends outwards toward the horizon, but as I leave the path, the flowers seem to struggle to press on. Less and less they grow, and the healthy bloom gives way to fallow land. This dirt is just as robust as the others, but its empty. Why is this field empty, flowers are able to grow. This field was empty because no one took the time to sow.
I’ve never been especially stellar at relationships. It’s certainly not from a lack of feeling. My problem lies within the action. Like a burning flame, the father I get from them, the harder it is to remember the warmth. The fire is always there, burning red hot, flickering in the darkness, it’s just about stoking the fire even though I might not close to it. I feel at times like I become a ghost, a piece of fiction until I am seen. I grew up this way because the relationships around me felt largely part-time. As if my existence required me not to get too close, because too close can cause pain, and energy and I needed all the energy I had to keep me from the pain. I know it sounds dramatic but when you’re not involved with anything you had now way of being let down. It’s not a great way of thinking, a personal flaw I never intended to have but one I have to contend with regularly. What troubles me though is this growing bud, resting within my heart that calls out to tend the garden of good relationships I have the great fortune to have. Allow them to take root and grow. Grow so that it can bear fruit and transist itself into something much more than the sum of its parts. There are so many people around me who bring light into my life, and it’s shameful that I do not put more effort into cultivating these beautiful relationships. So now comes the time to do away with the ghost and shed light on the myth, to come out from hiding and be accountable for my inaction.
I am growing up slowly and I look around to realize that there are some things I have always wanted, somethings money cannot simply buy or find. I will chase these things, and do better than the me of yesterday as it always comes down to where we invest our time because most of the work in relationships is just showing up. There is a saying “The best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago, and the next best time is today.” So here’s my pledge, to sow the seeds of the future, let the fields of flowers bloom, tend the gardens of relationships, so that the path might not simply be gilded but shine brightly with the sight of a full life.