I bought a ring recently, seemingly out the blue but it had been something I was thinking about doing for a while now. In slipping it on my finger, it felt it right, felt like exactly what I needed. Now the ring is nothing fancy, just a black and red silicone band that fits my finger well enough. A simple ring that called to be worn, a finger bear and empty. There is something I needed from this ring that I couldn’t get from a tattoo or some other symbols. With every morning, be it habit or choice, I could put on the ring and carry it around as a reminder to myself. A reminder I spend my life pursuing the things that matter to me, a life I choose above all other alternatives. Each time I put on the ring, I will choose to walk this path, a promise to myself that this path is a choice, and the path that I have chosen.
It’s easy to lose sight of the important things when the mounting stress and deadlines are sitting at my doorstep. Over the past couple of weeks, it has been difficult starting a cycle of impending dread that would mount infinitely high until I felt like my head was ringing and a weight upon my chest.
These feeling pass though, as long as we let it and when everything clears it always comes with revelation. Whether or not this is the, I want to be doing with my life. It’s not the first time this has happened and these feelings never get any easier to feel, there is great humility in them. When everything is stripped away things become clear and path before me adjusts to razor sharp focus. I want this life, it’s a life I have been building up for years. When everything is overwhelming, the motivation and feelings towards it feel bloated and stale. It’s easy to lose sight of the goal or become jaded with the constant progress I need to make to achieve it. Sometimes we need that suffering to stay true to the path.
Above all things I have been thinking about life, and what life really is about. Sure there are many aspects to it, roles to fill, things to do, and memories to have. But a lot of what it comes down to is the suffering we choose. Take for instance parenting side effects include sleepless nights, undue stress, premature hair loss, loss of time, and loss of money and yet billions of people choose to do it. If I went up to most parents I don’t think they would even think about it, the choose this life because suffering culminates to something more, something fulfilling. We choose our sufferings because it brings us closer to the lives we want to live. I look at it and think about it, would it be better to be suffering from having lost my purpose, or grief of giving up on a dream? I would always much rather have sleepless nights and stressed filled hours pursuing something greater than myself than the problem of too much sleep and not enough to do.
Sometimes we need to be reminded that we choose from infinitely many possibilities, some being better than others and yet it’s us to suffer through. I would much rather suffer for the things I love than suffer for the things I hate. I have a ring now, that fills my finger and reminds me of the choice I make every day to move towards my dream.